Written on 6-11-15
Re-published
on 5-25-17
“No one
is perfect, until you fall in love with them” (off photo from Grey Schneider
article).
I was lying
in bed about a month ago, and I can only say that what I started thinking of
must have come straight from God Himself because I felt an overwhelming sense
of peace about it. I started thinking about this particular picture I
own. It’s of two angels, and one angel is kissing the cheek of the other.
I believe the title of the picture is First
Kiss. It seems so innocent, a simple kiss. The angel giving the
kiss looks as though he has found his soul mate. The strange thing about it is
that the angel being kissed seems almost uncomfortable, as though she’s
struggling with the feelings she has for him. The expression on her face says she
doesn’t know how to react to being the object of such affection. I could
see in their faces genuine true innocence in that simple act. In a perfect
world, that’s the way love would always be.
Sadly,
many times the way a person looks in their skin becomes our basis for love. The
suit may look good, but what’s underneath could be pure poison. We fall in lust
with the person, and in the beginning it's always great. The feelings are
flowing back and forth in a wave of euphoria. We feel so desired and in
sync with each other. But, eventually the honeymoon wears off when we discover
our partner has faults like everyone else.
That type
of unrealistic love isn't supposed to last anyway. Though fairy tales are
nice, they are just that - fairy tales. Real love in its purest form goes
so much deeper than that, beyond skin, mental stimulation and charisma.
It is beyond our understanding, but in this world we get sidetracked
relying on what it doesn't mean, not fully recognizing what it should be. To
genuinely love someone isn’t always easy. It takes work and time.
Just like
many others, I've gone into relationships in the past where I didn't look close
enough at the person I was getting with, and I ended up broken-hearted
because of my blindness. I wanted someone who fulfilled the idea I had of the perfect guy, but I
chose not to see past the reality of who he was. It’s funny how we can trick
ourselves into believing in the illusion of perfection in our partner when the
person in front of us isn’t what we’d really choose because they don't possess the qualities we find important in a mate. We put together the bits and pieces of what we want by
forcing the parts together into some mismatched puzzle, which isn’t based off the
truth.
Many people
put on a show when they meet someone they’re interested in. They don’t reveal
who they truly are because they don’t know if they’ll be judged for it, and
this is also part of the reason we get blinded by the person we perceive as Mr.
or Mrs. Right. They show us what they know we want to see, and we choose to
overlook the things we need to be focused on the most. Yet, we hurt ourselves
and our potential partner when we go into the relationship with unrealistic
expectations. We all have a side to us we don’t want others to know about.
On the
flip side, we also still deserve to be with someone who’s honest with us about
who they really are, or the relationship will be based off lies. Love can only
take us so far. Trust and communication are necessities too. Unfortunately, there are many reasons a person
may be misleading when in a relationship from being afraid to be vulnerable or
perhaps they don’t take into account how they hurt their partner by hiding
things they know the person would not like. Still, everything always comes out
into the open one way or another. The
Bible tells us in Luke 8:17, “For there
is nothing hidden that will not be disclosed, and nothing concealed that will
not be known or brought out into the open” (NIV). The truth allows each
person the choice of deciding where the relationship goes from there.
I am
reminded of those two angels, and I especially think of the one who seemed
uncomfortable being kissed. Though I think it's sad when we are unable to
be vulnerable, I do see a sense of hope in the fact that if we find the person
we love enough to stick by them no matter what, we might be able to reach the
place where the reality of who they are meets up with the reality of who we
are. This is where the truest form of love is found and nurtured.
I believe
the angels were experiencing their first real kiss, and I have to wonder how
many of us have really experienced the magic of that moment in the same way. Sure,
we may have physically kissed people before, but was it really our true first kiss?
I’d like to believe the real one comes when we’ve seen the good, bad and ugly
of our partner and still see them as the only person we could ever imagine
ourselves being with, and I believe it’s in this place where a little piece of
heaven on earth is found.
Quote
from photo source:
Schneider, Grey. "4 Tips To Help You Find Your
Soulmate." Urbane Women.
N.p., n.d. Web. 28 Apr. 2017. <http://www.urbanewomen.com/4-tips-to-help-you-find-your-soulmate.html>.
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